If you are reading this, you are probably thinking, “Oh man, my thoughts exactly!” We have all had them and have heard plenty about them…bad neighbors.
– Junk all over the place
– Barking dogs
– Screaming kids
– Wal-Mart neighbors
– Inappropriate holiday decorations
– Parties all the time
– Spousal fighting
– Spying on you
– The gossipers
– the list goes on…
The question for this post is what to do about them. I will not hold you in suspense…the answer is nothing. This issue is probably more about your own personality than anything else. Most neighbors, with the exception of a few obvious ones, are decent people with slightly different views on things. A big problem is called festering. Here is a scenario: You move into a new neighborhood and live there for a few years. No one (because of the new world we live in) ever really gets to know each other, or introduces themselves to each other, for that matter. You keep noticing different things that your neighbors do (and trust me, we all notice the things our neighbors do, and vice-versa). After a while, you start complaining to yourself about all the stupid things that everyone in the neighborhood does and these things become REALLY annoying to you. This is where it starts…and very soon, you may snap. Have you ever had this feeling?
Now, think about your childhood. Think back about how much you used to scream or terrorize the neighborhood and how much of a mess you used to make…your bike laying on the front yard for days. Think about how the basketball hoop was on its side in the driveway for months at a time right next to the broken lawnmower. Think about the effect that had on your neighbors.
Now think about today. Think about how much your dog barks and how much your kids scream. Now, think about the neighbors that you do like and actually talk to. What kind of annoying things do they do? If you really pay attention, they probably do most of the things that everyone else does, but you don’t pay attention to it anymore because you like these people. Why do you like them? Most likely because they introduced themselves to you way back when you first moved in and now you have an affinity toward them. I guess it’s common human nature…dislike and distrust of the unknown or unfamiliar.
There are tons of websites about this topic, but here are a few really funny ones:
Neighbors From Hell
If you browse through these, you will find a common theme – revenge. The people who write in and share their stories truly want revenge. They want to hurt their neighbors physically, mentally and financially. You know, I bet that if these neighbors just sat down and had a conversation with each other and got over themselves, everything would be ok.
Say you have a neighbor who is a slob. What ever happened to the world where one of us walked over there and asked if we could help out? No, I guess we don’t do that anymore.
The point is this – we all come from different sub-cultures and cultures. We all have different ways of doing things. We have got to learn how to put up with one another or we will just live our lives complaining about one another. Let’s get involved with the sloppy guy and the kids down the road. Let’s get drunk at least once with the Peacock family across the way. Let’s try to understand what makes these people tick and get used to them, because if we don’t, we will just keep running to different towns across the country to one day find a perfectly situation neighborhood full of people just like us. After a few months, we will find something we don’t like about them either.
Think hard before you choose to dismiss your neighbors, because they will most likely be the ones to call the fire department if your house is on fire or stop on the highway when you have a flat tire. At least try to love…or at a minimum like thy neighbor.
November 30, 2007 at 12:42 pm
Ok well this is my story. First of I am 26 y/o just moved out of my parents place. I am not a big party animal but like to have a few friends over to watch the game. I own my condo, and I expect that I have some rights as does the complaining neighbor.
So far I been living at the condo 2 weeks, never had a party or anyone over. Just go about my business. So yesterday I had friends over (5 of them) to watch the Packers vs Cowboys. We are drinking, talking, and cheering the game on. 10:30PM (thursday) my neighbor comes to my door, looking very annoyed. You guys are very loud I can hear you walking around, your tv is up too loud, and can you be quiet. I apoligize turn down the tv slighty, and go about just hanging with friends. 11:00pm The guy comes back you guys are still loud this is the last time I am coming back. Come on I mean we talk a bit loud and joke around, but you know what I have rights too. I mean eventually I am gonna have my parents over and friends for a house warming, I am not buying a place to tip toe around and not have people over. I am not a d*ck but some people are just anal, and want total silence, and if you want that get a house don’t live in a condo.
January 9, 2008 at 5:36 pm
Boy, are you so very off. I live in an apartment above my troublesome neighbor. She is definitely younger than I am. You want to talk about troublesome… Ok, the night she came and took over the apartment below mine, she yelled a the woman who was moving out. Then commenced to yell at me upstairs. She hasn’t quit, even when the owner told her to stop and leave.
She demands I clean so she can yell and scream, telling me I am doing it wrong, I am her slave and have to do it her way, including childish and cruel names. She also demands I move because I won’t do what she wants. She has also tried to have me arrested on false charges of thievery and being a pedofile.
She also demands my personal property and thinks she can tell me what I can and can’t keep, eat, wear…etc. As though she really believes she can run my life for me.
The cops have been called on her and admittedly me for our yelling back and forth. Yes, I have read her the riot act a few times, reminding her that she is the one who has to shut up, clean up her act and go home to her parents since she wants to act like a 2 year old instead of a responsible adult.
What really gets me is that the owner won’t throw her out, unless, that is, he evicts me first for HER brat bitch behavior. I am at my wits end, but I refuse to give her the power over me that will encourage her to keep this up. I will NOT move, I will NOT clean and I will NOT do anything she tells me to do.
Now, will someone please come with the straight jacket and butterfly net to remove her from my life so she can get the medical and medicinal help she needs to see reality and do the right thing by going home to her parents?
February 17, 2008 at 7:20 am
your advice in this article doesn’t cut it. sometimes you make no noise yourself, are respectful, and all you get back from your neighbors is rude noise, attitude, and strife.
March 19, 2008 at 8:03 pm
I can understand about the festering thing. However, we live in a planned community where just about everyone is a great neighbor. Except for…well, let’s just call them, the McDoes. This old couple, who my husband and I were friendly with initially – we gave them tomatoes from our garden and dog pee pads when our dog got house trained, etc, etc – then, they turned. We are friendly with everyone and don’t get involved in neighborhood politics. The McDoes noticed we were friendly with some people who are suing them (the McDoes and for good reason). Now, they have started some sort of sick, twisted routine of intimidation. Anyone who disagrees with them or does anything (I’m talking trivial stuff, like doesn’t clip their grass 1/4 of an inch within the limit they think it needs to be clipped – I’m not exaggerating) they don’t like, the McDoes call the police and say that the person is harassing them (the McDoes).
I understand about wanting your neighbors to call the fire department for you. In fact, many of us in the neighborhood have an emergency smore making kit. If the McDoes house ever did catch fire, we would roast marshmallows, make smores and sing kumbaya.
March 20, 2008 at 1:42 pm
Has anyone noticed that the people who leave comments on this post are a little…um…shall we say…oh, forget it.
April 6, 2008 at 9:47 pm
Some neighbors cannot be ignored. There are laws against harassment. For example, hanging wind chimes next to your bedroom. I advocate taking these people to court.
Wallace Sowell says:
April 21, 2008 at 8:48 am
Do home owners have any rights? I know they say we do. But listen to all these horror stories about bad neighbors, which I also have.
What laws are there that protect homeowners?
What laws are there that will hold landlords accountable for their tenants?
September 9, 2008 at 3:08 pm
Recently someone bought the house next to me. Both of our properties border a large creek that has a seasonal salmon run. It is very pretty, but because of the creek’s location we are limited as to what we can do on our land. Right after buying the property next door the neighbor illegally logged off all of the timber including two trees that were not even on his land. Soon after he diverted water that ran down his driveway during a heavy rain storm and flooded out my garage. He did get into trouble with the state and local authorities for the logging. Now he is selling the home. It has truly been digusting to have to live next to this. I have found that some people just don’t care about obeying the law or the rights of the people around them.The best of luck to any of you who have bad neighbors.
October 14, 2008 at 10:29 am
One blogger stated it perfectly. You can try to live with people peacfully but they refuse.
You are quiet and polite and make no noise. They return the kindness with nastiness and whatever other evil that comes out of them.
January 8, 2009 at 7:38 am
Positive story alert! I live in Pine Bush NY. Jay..I know you are familiar with this town. I am the neighbor that plows everyone’s driveway. Read all about it: http://oshea12566.wordpress.com/2009/01/01/plowing/
I plow both next door neighbors and two families across the street. Why? I am not really sure. I have a tractor with a snow plow and the seeing the them struggle with hand shovels is gut wrenching. It takes me 10 minutes to do each driveway when by hand it would take them an hour or so. I do not accept money, but have found a gift certificate to Applebee’s in my mailbox.
February 19, 2009 at 2:21 am
my neighbors pump the music to crack of dawn they block our way to our walk way to our apt with their car we’ve spoken to them nicely and you know what all they’ve done is make worst i’ve complaint several times to the landlord and all i’ve gotten back from him after 4 yrs is there will always be something wrong every where i go what an a he rented to these salvages with no moral respect to others i don’t leave my home any more i’ve gotten sick and the fact that all he cares about is if they pay the rent they aren’t bad people the drug dealing them getting doped up i see they are good people i’ve had enough of this i’ve been looking for a new place but instead of landlords question me i question them is this a safe and quiet place cause the truth is im not leaving the situation im in to start the same old same old some where else i feel for all of yous im living my own night mare but take a stand and no we don’t need to live like that question your next landlord it’s best to let them know that some places aren’t worth the trouble no matter how beautiful the place is i’ve here 4yrs and 5months out of the 4 yrs we lived happy we had this drunk that for 3and 1/2 yrs made trouble turned the neighbors against us was always in our face finally she moved out but not poisioning the landlord against us when i thought we we’re finally free he brings this people in and now it’s like if you don’t it move out is he for real neighbors and landlords from the pit of hell.
CG in SJ says:
September 7, 2009 at 2:44 pm
OK…obviously this yahoo has never really had “bad” neighbors; Parties until 4 a.m. with work the next day… loud vulgar yelling back and forth all night… music, TV, and the “boom-boom-boom” well after even the bars close is just not acceptable…I came to this site for ideas and assistance, not some California mumbo jumbo of how this is my fault. Idiot.
September 7, 2009 at 3:15 pm
Wow, are you always this much fun?
Trust me man, I know what you are talking about. When I wrote this post, I was watching my hair fall out because of our ghetto red neck neighbors parking their NASCAR trailer right up along our property line. Ummm…let me go down this list:
1. Little white Maltese that liked to bark ALL the time. ALL THE TIME. Gotta love those little white dogs.
2. Parties that seemed to go on way too often. When their idiot friends came over, they would actually park on the lawn right next to our house and on the road in front of our lawn.
3. Seems like everyone in this town had a full size backhoe that they liked to run early Sunday mornings. For what? Who knows.
4. Floodlights that they decided to turn on at 2AM so they can smoke their ghetto cigarettes on the back porch. They just happen to shine through our bedroom window at night. We actually had to hang 3 sheets over the window to stop the light from coming through. No joke.
5. The dirtbag across the street just had to have his piles of garbage piled in his driveway…FOREVER. Old machines, old swing set, old lawnmower that didn’t run anymore, etc…
6. Same dirtbag has a nasty habit of burning said garbage in his backyard. The whole neighborhood stunk like burning plastic. The nice town we lived in didn’t see that as a problem as long as he had a permit. Burning plastic isn’t a problem?
Oh, the list goes on and on. When I wrote this post, I was holding myself back from taking things into my own hands. I tried to look at things from a different viewpoint.
We eventually had to move. For your reference, you can’t change a bad neighbor. You have to get away from them and leave them for other people to deal with. If you try to do anything other than get away, you will just make things worse. After we left, we both had nightmares of seeing these scummers show up in the new town we live in. I still get freaked out a little bit from the trash we used to live next to.
Oh, by the way, thank you for calling me an idiot.
September 11, 2009 at 3:17 pm
I have never lived next to a good neighbor EVER. Why should this neighbor be any different? well here it goes: i live in a city full of bad neighbors, drug dealers, users, trash and so on, well my new next door neighbor is a single guy and i thought ok well this should be better than my last neighbors. WRONG! He plays his music loud everyday, somtimes for just a half hour or so… which doesnt bother me. But other times he plays it when im trying to get my kids to bed. Mind you i have 3 small children and im 9 months pregnant. I have asked him at least 6 times to keep it down, i always was polite and told him what a good neighbor he was and that i just had an issue with his music… well he totally ignored me and nothing has changed since i moved in about 4 months ago. I finally got fed up with asking him and being nice since he obviously wasnt getting the point of KEEP it down. My kids couldnt sleep at night and would wake up crying so i had to do something about it asap. So i asked him one more time and said i wouldnt ask him again to turn it down because i asked him a dozen times already. He said ok and was polite back as always but then continued to be loud. He seems to have gotten even more bold, having a dog in his house when no pets are allowed, having people over at night and being loud, playing loud music ect… so i called the landlord to complain and now he is pissed off at me, i am just trying to get his noise level down before i have this baby and he being a single guy doesnt understand the need for quiet when you have kids that need naps and go to bed early. I always yell at my kids to be quiet and would never let them or myself be that noisey but yet i have to hear his noise UGH! today he came to my door pounding and asking to speak with me, i assume he got a call from my landlord today to keep it down because i complaind. He seemed very upset and has been slamming his doors ect… what should i do? should i go talk to him? or just stay away from him? Im afraid he will retailiate or have someone else harm me? am i overreacting? any input ty!!
September 29, 2009 at 9:48 am
I totally sympathize. My family and I are going through a similar situation with a neighbor that has been living next door for 9 months. All nine of those months have been a major irritant to me. He is a renter and I own my property. I did the polite thing and went over to his place two times and my wife, once. After that it was all HOA. I did the right thing by bringing it up, but I would have worn out a path between my front door and his if I had gone over there every time his “surround-sound” was turned up. We share an adjoining wall for our Town home units.
This “tenant” ignored all the violations sent to him, every one of them. He continued his trashy behavior untill enough complaints were made and a hearing was called by the HOA. They are better now, but I don’t trust them and I don’t wish to live next to them much longer. I have my own meeting with the HOA and the landlord coming up in the near future and I am going to suggest, one owner to another, that they not renew this renters lease. As far as I could tell the tenant hasn’t been brought to task for the last nine months of crap and I am going to retain a lawyer if I can’t get what I want from the homeowner next door, i.e., a promise to evict.
I will not have a good relationship with this guy and his miriad family/friends who live with him. I get the ugliest of looks from him and I don’t feel comfortable in my own living space any longer. I have only for a short time, 3 years, next to good neighbors. Rest of the time, most have been rude and/or violent. We lack civility in our society. It has been gone for many years.
February 4, 2010 at 12:41 am
Reading about everyone’s bad experiences makes me feel a little better about living underneath the inconsiderate that are my neighbors. These jerks have parties constantly, and they’re like 40! Their guests are too. They stomp up and down the stairs and destroyed the lobby once as they were leaving at 3 in the morning. What rude! The woman wears heels and walks so heavily all day. Who wears heels in the house? Maybe some hot young thing checking herself out in the mirror, but this is. Frizzy haired and middle-aged. After the party comes the. I am so sick of hearing the moans and groans and now it’s worse because I can put an ugly face to it all. GROSS!!! I’ve called the cops, complained to the landlord, and even knocked on their door. Nothing helped. I might just leave a bag full of matter in front of their door and light it on fire.
May 22, 2010 at 5:03 pm
I’m sure this works swell when the neighbors do talk. But when every time you try to approach them to resolve issues, not even the ones you have with them, but the ones they have with you and they just shout bad names at you and slam the door in your face, it’s kind of hard. So what do you do if your neighbors refuse to talk to you? We went to their landlord and it’s helped with the property damage they were causing (shooting our chickens and any glass they could see in our yard with a BB gun and pouring foul substances through our RV vents in the roof) but they hate us more than ever. Our next step is to again talk to the young man’s step-father (he’s older than us, but he acts like he’s 2 so therefore he is a young man in my eyes) and try to get him to not sell the house to him. His father is a sane well respected lawyer, but his wife (the man’s mother) just babies him and rallies for him, so we’ll see what happens. I just want them to go back to Colorado and leave us alone.
May 24, 2010 at 11:47 am
I moved out of my own fully paid off townhouse because of lousy neighbours.
The woman thought she was the most high class teacher to ever grace the face of the earth and to prove this fact she allowed a mentally unstable unemployed car salesman to move in and make an absolute pest of himself.
The first incident happened one Friday night when they recognised me at a local bar/restaurant and they sidled up acting friendly and trying to get free food and drinks out of me. When I said no things got nasty and he started a fistfight.
I never laid charges thinking that they would just stay away from me after that. Things were quiet for about 6 months and then they started harassing me with loud music at all times of the night.
The worst times for the music were school holidays when it would go on until 3 in the morning, I would have to go to work barely functioning and they would get to sleep in all day.
I eventually started confronting them and wrinting letters to the managing agent of the complex and that kept the noise down for a while but my car would mysteriously be vandalized.
Things came to a head when he assaulted someone else in the complex and I happened to witness that, charges were then laid and I was the star witness.
I had already signed to buy another house by then and was 2 weeks away from moving out so missed many of the fireworks after he realised that we were serious about having him locked up.
He was found guilty of that assault and they have recently sold their place, I hope that they are not moving anywhere near my near house.
October 16, 2010 at 1:02 pm
I Had a neighboe’s son from heck. He tormented my children, threw trash in my yard, cut my telephone line, destroyed my childrens toys in the backyard including their swingset. I reasoned everthing out because there is some type of logic to the madness. I thought it would stop. When He got old enough to drive, then he and his friends parked their cars inbetween our houses and turned the base on full blast. Yes my house was vibrating and my windows were rattling. I asked him to turn it down, it took four times screaming at the top of my lungs to get his attention. I only got it because he looked in my direction. and yes I was even stupid enough to explain I couldn’t hear my phone ring. For three months he got worse because I told him to turn it down. His base blasted everyday, then three times a day. Talking to the mom was a nightmare. She told me to quit picking on her son. So I called the police. Yep world war three, He tried to run me over with his car. I, being the idiot, talked to his mother again. She raked me over the coals for calling the police about the loud base and how I better leave her son alone..This 19 year old jerk said yea mom she’s crazy. I let them finish…MY TURN I called the police only twice and only complained about her son three times in eight years. I had enough I wasn’t planning to put him in jail but under it. Every time he breaks the law I’ll call the cops on him and his friends 911 tapes prove he’s been a nightmare..ect… I though the neighbors would never come around me for my outburst but I found out their nextdoor neighbor of 3 years who is disabled shot off his 45 (it was blanks but they still make noise) to make sure the whole house holdheard him, because he couldn’t yell over the base. The whole block called in to the police. I was never alone. No one wants to cause trouble but these jerks like him know that and treat you like dirt because your a coward and afraid of them, that’s what they think. So much for good manners right. I have no more problems except I know if I would have stood up in the first place things wouldn’t have got so out of hand. Don’t let things build up, Try to talk it out. One rasied voice say it’s your problem solve it, walk off, no matter what. Then wait a few days if the behavior continues and get some help. Talk to your neighbors, city council, mayor, and or police.
October 29, 2010 at 12:41 pm
Writer, You need to get into the 21st century and see what really happens in ALL neighborhoods now instead of dispensing marshmallow advice. It’s pretty apparent you haven’t had to live in the real world, at least not recently. Most neighbors may not be mean, but since neighbors rarely speak to each other it’s hard to tell. I would never try to talk or reason with them if there’s a chance they have a lab and there’s always a great chance they could be, no matter what kind of neigborhood you live in, in which case rationality is not going to have any inroads with them. This is not the 1950′s. Back then, some (not all) neighbors could be trusted and were decent because if they weren’t, they were ostrasized. Now when they are bad (and dangerous) neighbors can sometimes have a gang of friends who are readily availale to intimidate and/or do injury to a neighbor or neighbors who complain or try to stand up for themselvs, and the police don’t want to mess with them because in suburbia they are not equipped for more than writing traffic tickets, and if you try to deal with them yourself there’s a good chance you or your property or both could be damaged badly! In larger neighborhoods police don’t have the time to deal with bad neighbors.
November 6, 2010 at 5:26 pm
I started to read the above message but had to stop have way through. I have tried everything with my neighbors. I have personally walked up to them shook their hand and they were cool with everything and we would work together with the issues we were haveing. Well guess what? that didn’t work. These people dont care about anyone else, they are unemployed and live off the govt that I proudly work for. They sit on their front porch and drink all day and it doesnt matter what time of the day it is. So now back to the article I read. Nothing works. No one cares and that just way life is in this world today.
November 10, 2010 at 10:11 pm
Glad to hear a lot of people have wacky or worse neighbors.
I am surrounded by irritating neighbors. I cannot believe how inconsiderate some neighbors can be. Of course they are probably oblivious to the situation.
Best course of action is to move away from the problems. Wish I could, not real probable. Have to bite my tongue and put up with the nonsense.
Hope that I don’t snap!
November 12, 2010 at 5:38 pm
oh and to add onto what i was saying above. when the landlord fixed the door where it couldnt be slammed anymore, he had put somthing on it where it would slowly close by itself ok well now the people above will prop the door open in the middle of winter so that it freezes in here our door on the front of our apt. are like these thin double doors with 10 glass panes on each side and is locked by a chain lock, so kinda like french doors almost so the air comes right in and in the summer when our air is on they leave the door proped open so the heat stays in they are just ridiculous people and when they come in they make sure they stomp all the way up the stairs and all the way down them and are as loud as they can be. and just dont care~ WHO LETS THEIR DOG Pee ALL OVER SOMEONE ELSES STUFF???? WHO DOES THAT?? ITS DISGUSTING!!!!!!
Dolores Deisher says:
November 17, 2010 at 6:32 pm
My neighbor is so nosy she watches from her window 24/7. She just recently complained about some buildings being to close to property line. So now I have to move them. But, yes they will be moved to the back yard for her to enjoy and maybe painted a new color. She likes to yell at my children. My children was playing in the yard and she calls the police. A new neighbor moves in the area and she introduces herself and tells him he can park in her sisters field. Then she calls the police after he parks in the field. She wants me to move because she wants to own all the land. I have lived with harrassment too long. I installed cameras and I think I will invest in some evergreens. But SHE IS CRAZY!!!
December 6, 2010 at 1:23 pm
Used to live in the city, moved out of the city to the upscale suburbs. Own and paid off my end unit townhome, lived here 10 years. For the past 4 years, have had tenants renting next to me. IMO there is a big difference between owners and tenants in townhomes communities. The current tenants for the past 3 months are white trashy folks that should be living in the city or a trailer park. Can her the male tenant screaming at his kid…. “get in your *** room, *** this, *** that!” My 6 year old grandaughter hears him screaming and asked me what is that and is scared. Last night, big snowstorm, I rang his door and told him he had to move his car out of the street so the plows can get through (HOA rule-no parking in the street when it is snowing). He then starts screaming at me. I don’t even feel comfortable in my own home. I specifically left the city to get away from these type of people. I could give you a laundry list of HOA rules violations, but what do they care, they don’t own the place.
dENNIS tEEL says:
December 30, 2010 at 2:40 pm
The original poster here lives in lala land..he’s wrong,most people DON’T get all polite when confronted..i’m a member of … btw..the OP sounds like he’s either one of those people who’ve been complained about OR a wingnut who believes we should all get along and tolerate one anothers loud overpowering bass at 1am(as though they have some kind of right that i never heard about to do so). what the OP has failed to bring up ,are any of the circumstances brought up in these forums.this is why i say he’s decietful..people who bass your walls out at 1,2 or 3am know very well they can be heard(unless their helen keller) and just don’t care.people who are hanging around in their cars in the apartment complex parking lot boomcarring at midnight know full and well that they can be overheard and in fact are attempting to gain attention by doing what they’re doing/.the original OP is no doubt on some disney stuff.by all means,if the punk next door to you is blasting music at 2am,call the cops…and do it everytime he gets stupid.he’ll learn sooner than later!!
January 21, 2011 at 5:01 pm
I have this lady and her men and she has 2 set of twins and
She is a ford and omg her little boy come in my
Yard I wrote her letters tell her about her boy coming in
My yard and she still does nothing and her kids keep come
Up are drive way and at night 2 and they almost got hit
By one are cars and there yellow lab is idot he bark non
January 22, 2011 at 7:07 pm
We have a neighbor that is a shut-in because she is a nutjob. She has nothing to do all day but write letters to various departments within the city where we live complaining about us and making up false situations. She doesn’t work. She didn’t even buy her house, she got it thru inheritance. Her husband ( I don’t know how anyone could marry this witch) leaves for work at around 5am and returns around 6pm–while all day she sits around. The second he comes home, she is screaming at him–literally screaming for him to take out the trash. He should take out the trash–take her down to the curb and leave her there! We are at our wits end. We have no idea what we can do to stop her from harassing us. The city has to investigate all reports regardless of how phony they may be.
January 27, 2011 at 8:49 pm
I can tell you from experiences of my own that dealing with neighbors by using kindness is all good if the neighbors are willing to comply with it. Not everyone can respect they neighbor, lets be real!! Some people have no class. As you said for those generally wanting revenge, sometimes is justifiably so. I know I have felt it and I am usually very kind and giving. These neighbors of mine are rude, obnoxious, threatening, violent and are on there way to becoming prisoners when they turn 18, I guarantee it. I am sure it comes from the Mom never being home, the same mom who buys them there cigarettes and liquor!! So sometimes being nice an trying to work things out does not happen, then what are you left with to do? How does someone get rid of these kinds of neighbor? I have tried the manager of the apartments, the police, CPS and the states attorney, yet nothing can be done unless they use violence or do property damage, but by then it’s to late. So any advice now?
January 29, 2011 at 9:25 pm
I have rented this house for 4 years, 2 of those l tolerated loud music at all hours, loud cars and slamming of doors. Tried the letter (polite) explaining what the loud music etc is doing to this household didnt work. Tried the police didn’t want to take it that far. have you found neighbours seem to know when the police are turning up as the music goes down so quick. In turn you are made a fool of by the police as they cant hear what the complaint is about. Talk about getting nowhere. Then l went into the local council and got the owners details well he received a letter with dates times abusive language, the house being tampered with. That worked shock horror. If it isnt one thing its another this street is becoming a downright hole. I work 6 days a week up to 10 hours a day and respect ha there’s none of that around here when it comes to music yelling and loud cars. Even neighbours taking their fights onto the street. Come on what ever happened to respect went out of the window. Now l am intending to move in November enough is enough. Sick of being nice and some neighbours deliberately having loud music on my day off when they know its my only day off. They think because they own their house they have more rights. Everyone has rights but to a point, why cant people enjoy a BBQ with music in their backyard on weekends during reasonable hours these days? No more miss nice at least l wont stoop to their level. Ignoring works after a long time but why should we have to change our lifestyle to live peacefully?
February 6, 2011 at 10:04 am
My 60ish neighbor whom has never moved out of mommys house, she is alive, is not nice! He got mad when my son,26, was shoveling my driveway and flipped some snow over the fence into his front yard. He threw a shovel full of snow in my sons face and then threatened to hit him with his shovel. My son put his shovel up in defense and accidentally clocked him. He then threatened to come over the fence and beat my son. My son told him to come on over. Well, he didnt but proceeded to shovel his yard into my driveway. Really? I told him to grow up and he proceeded to talk smack to my kid and to me til his sister came out to try and physically remove the shovel from him. He told her to back off and get away from him because he wasnt done and proceeded to shovel his yard of snow into my driveway. He is so immature. What do you do with someone like that. I told my son to step back and let him shovel his whole yard into our drive. Then his sister said they will take pictures of the snow so they know if we do it again!! OMG! They have been horrible neighbors to us for 20 years. They called the police on me last summer because I was powerwashing my fence with pure water and it was getting the side of their house wet. They called the police when my kids were little, playing in the sprinkler on a hot summer day and the water created a small puddle on their sidewalk in front of their house! These people are ridiculous.
The police are tired of them also, after 20 years of calling for petty things they told them last summer that they were no longer coming out and wasting their time. They were told if they dont like us thats fine, then they need to not speak to us. They basically told them to grow up.
The old man has been gone for 11 years and he was just as bad, if not worse. He told my kids when they were ages 6 to 11 that he was going to put barb wire on the fence so they would cut their hands up if they touched the fence. He walked right into my front door and put my 12 tear old son against a wall threatening bodily harm. He came into my yard one time and got into my face and I asked him to leave and he kept getting closer to me so I ran into the house and when I got in I looked out the window and he was still standing there and he kicked my dog in the chest and my dog bit his hand.
I guess the apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree. I cant stand these people and wish I could build a 20 ft wall between my line and theirs.
I do not speak to them and avoid them it’s just the stuff they do all the time to us. We keep our home nice inside and outside. Their house is kinda dumpy especially the back yard that is full of junk.
February 19, 2011 at 6:03 pm
I have a neighbor who has a growing junk pile in their backyard. This does not make for a nice view from my backyard. And fences are illegal in our neighborhood. UGH!
March 4, 2011 at 9:15 am
This post contains GENIUS advice! I think it will work with my current neighbor, who is not like some of these nightmare neighbors described above, but just a little messy. I will volunteer to help him with his nascent vegetable bed, and ask when he’s going to barbecue again and if I can drop by . . . hopefully making him more aware of his surroundings and mine . . . THANKS!
March 14, 2011 at 4:03 pm
I’am currently preparing to attend a hearing with the board of directors at the complex where I live due to 4 filed complaints that my dog was barking, these complaints date from 2009 thru 2011 and the association is wanting to charge me $1,000 for the 4 occurances. I have lived at said complex since 2004 and have adopted my dog in 2007. My dogs barking, which happens seldomly and usually settles down after a few minutes. My neighbor is elderly and is retired, which means he’s at home most of the “day” (with his own dog) when the barking occurs, my other neighbor have no complaints. I do not wish to collar my dog with a bark prevention devices nor can I afford to send him to a dog daycare. Has anyone ever had to deal with something close to this? If so, how did you go about it? Please help, Thanks.
March 14, 2011 at 4:09 pm
Very few things in this world are more annoying than listening to someone else’s dog bark. Besides crying kids in a restaurant. I left my last apartment because of a barking dog. It wasn’t fair. The owners never know their dog’s barking is so annoying to everyone else. Either that, or they don’t believe it.
…READ THIS AND JERKS NER UR HOUSE WILL BE GONE… says:
March 25, 2011 at 7:20 pm
when ur 9 yrs old like me you can do some sneaky tricks and get them to move away… i had an old lady who was my noeber and she had CATS i mean like 5… she was surely a cate person… and u know what i had… a DOG!!! she madly starred at me and yelled when she was mad at me…. i gave her the nicname hitler…. now ive had lots of people but she was the worst…. back to the chase… the thing that gets most of the jerks near my house away is pretending like the house is haunted…. i have some tricks but of corse they only work on old people… BUT always remember… the best way to get ANYONE out of there house is to make them beleave its haunted…. and if you dont beleave me.. another way is to also make them so mad at you they TOTALY leave, also you can make them think they have creepy people near there house (dress up as a murderer, or nautsy and say hi ect.). BUT STILL the thing that gets most people out of there house… IS MAKING THEM THING ITS HAUNTED…. trust me. this will help you your whole life.. and it always helps me to….
…READ THIS AND JERKS NER UR HOUSE WILL BE GONE… says:
March 25, 2011 at 7:22 pm
OH!!! and ps: you shouldnt do this by yourself. its best in groups of 3-6.
March 28, 2011 at 12:22 pm
Hi. I moved in to a duplex and the landlord is a strange difficult man that really can;t be talked with. I *love the neighborhood. The day I took possession the neighbor in the duplex came over and told me the walls were paper thin and you could hear everything and made a big deal of it. So upon moving in, I tried to put my bedroom furniture in the office area away from the shared wall, it did not work and I had to take the bedroom next to hers, the night before I moved my furniture, I slept here, on a floor mat, as did my cousin, we were tired, did not talk, used the restroom and slept. She came the next day after I moved my furniture and told me at 11PM on a saturday she heard me trip and could I not do that because her sleep is precious and her husband surfs and she was just “warning” me that they need there sleep. I was nice and exhausted and said sure I will try. It continued almost daily. She hears me use the restroom, open my drawers, even brush my teeth, and she complains. She threatened to call the landlord to have me kicked out. I was irritated but I invited her over for cake, I gave her flowers the one night I got in a at 2 am. I offered to split the cost of a white noise sound machine with her for both of our peace of mind. She came over with her husband and refused the offer and complained my dog cries when I am away. indoors, crying, not barking. I am a small female with a quiet older dog, I sleep normal hours, I am not up late and I do wake up early. I am about to pull my hair out if she will not leave me alone, the other neighbors think she is being ridiculous, but I do not know what to do, her threat with the landlord concerns me a lot, as does her laying into my dog. I wake up and don’t get up to use the restroom because it wakes her up! By the way, they also wake me up, but I just put on my space heater and ignore the sound. I need to wake up for work at 4:45 starting next month, get ready and be dressed well and walk the dog who will be home during the day. I talked to a friend and he said I had the “right to private enjoyment” and to file a police report that I am being harassed. I would prefer being on good terms but I am concerned because her complaints are both unfounded and escalating and my home is very expensive and pretty and I would like to enjoy it. The landlord is not a good person to talk with unfortunately and I think that would do more damage than good, any ideas how to handle this? Thank you.
March 28, 2011 at 12:29 pm
Jesse, before you move on account of sound, buy a Marpac sleep sound machine. it’s dreamy.
Annoyed Neighbor says:
April 9, 2011 at 7:59 am
I wish someone could help me with my neighbors. the first apartment when you walk in the front entrance on the 1st floor. I just don’t know what to do. This is the 3rd night in a row that they have awaken me at 2,3,4 in the morning with their loud obnoxious. I really don’t think its fair to the neighbors like me who have to work M-F 8-5 and need my sleep! I can hear them through the walls, not only that but I wear earplugs and they still wake me up every time. I think its really sick and narcissistic that they do this night after night. I just don’t know what to do though, I don’t know how to go about communicating to them that they are torturing me. It’s 4:30am now and I am unable to sleep because they woke me up sure to ruin my whole Saturday ahead affecting all I have to do today.
If there is anyone who can help me or has any ideas or if I can just warn the next tenants of this building to stay away from … its not worth it and the property manager is a passive-aggressive jerk too who doesn’t care about anything here. please email me with any help please. thank you so much! And if you’re looking to move in here, don’t bother! the rent is great and all the other neighbors are too, but this guy and his sickness really ruins it, don’t even get me started on summer when its hot and you want to sleep with the window open but can’t due to the sounds that come out of his room.
June 29, 2011 at 11:03 am
I plan on giving all the bad neighbors in my life the SKUNK bomb, this consist of an egg drained of the yoke and whites and repalced with pure skunk oil from the hunting store, or maybe a syringe full in an open car window..or on there favorite patio.
September 15, 2011 at 12:35 am
I need help with a terrible neighbor they live their thru housing they must know some1 their cause me &7 other households on my block sent complaints 2the housing authority &they came &fixed their house up.these ppl r bad i busted the son breaking in2 my privacy fenced backyard 2steal my puppies,they tried 2break in my house but my alarm went off they stole my speakers out of my car,across the street they jacked this guys car4 times his hub caps(they actually had the nerve 2put then on their car&said a friend have it 2them&my good neighbor didnt have a reciept or serial# so cops did nothing)my next door neighbors dog got out&the a**holes(father,2sons,some friends)came out wit brooms &bats &beat the dog in the middle of the street(the dog did not go near them)i was out watering my lawn&then the dog owners got in a big royal rummble im the middle of the street also down the street they broke in2 a familyhome x/wife&baby home stole 1000$ hes car &hes husbands .22 police have been told all this can ne1 help me?!
Follower Of Christ says:
October 13, 2011 at 4:20 pm
I Live In A Apartment Were There Are Gang Members And They Smoke Marijuana Everyday And The Smoke And Smell Always Come Into Our Unit..They Also Start Playing Their Music Loud At 7 In The Morning..I Informed My Landlord About Them But All He Cares Is About The Money..I Call The Police And They Don’t Care..All They’ll Say Is For Us To Move Out..Why Do I Have To Moveout For The Problem Isn’t With Me Its With The Neighbors..What Can I Do About This Situation?
October 18, 2011 at 1:59 am
Wow. Dear author of this blog- You are obviously one of those who would not take your sick kid to the doctor but instead make a daisy chain and pray. Good luck with having no grasp on reality. Not all of us have it as easy as you do . Some of us face actually threats, assaults, and danger from neighbors. Some of us require orders of protection against neighbors due to their violence, Until you have been in the shoes of people who have had their day to day lives turned upside down by criminals and sociopaths , save your idiotic love-one-another b.s and your passive aggressive reprimands for someone who has the time. Sanctimonious freak.
November 7, 2011 at 12:58 pm
Glad I don’t live in YOUR reality!
November 30, 2011 at 3:35 pm
There are bad people out there, not everyone is basically good/decent as stated. Selfish, inconsiderate people who do not care who they disturb, what nuisance they cause, if they disrupt their neighbor’s lives, if they eventually cause their neighbors to move out. They are horrible, mean and nasty people who actually enjoy harassing others. It gives them a sense of power.
I have bad neighbors who moved in a few months ago. They have turned our lives into a daily stress.
If I retaliate with noise they escalate their noise. Am I supposed to simply sit back and say “oh well, let them be”? Whilst they destroy my quality of life? Rubbish.
Emergency Room Girl says:
January 11, 2012 at 11:56 pm
Mrs Robinson, For Example, The Last Few Months That I (Knew) Her, In Northeastern Texas, Was Causing Troubles For Everyone, Not Just Me, But Everyone….Mrs Robinson In Northeastern Texas, One Day, Invited Me Downstairs To Her Apartment, (I Guess She Was Just Lonely Or Something) And I Went Downstairs, (Because Like I Said, I Guess She Was Lonely Or Whatever) Which Was Fine, And Then She (Mrs Robinson) Started Asking Me All Sorts Of Questions, All Sorts Of Question Such As: Where Are Kids Parents Today?! (I Was Already Well Into Adulthood) But Anyways, She (Mrs Robinson) Went On With Asking: Where Are Kids Parents These Days?! (As I Said, I Was Already Into Adulthood Already) And Then She (Mrs Robison) Went On To Ask A Really Strange Question To Me: Have You Ever Considered Getting A Lobotomy Dear?! (She, Meaning Mrs Robinson, Continued On To Ask Me, That Really Strange Question, About Ever Considering Getting A Lobotomy…..) I Just Got Up, And Said That My Social Worker Was Comming Over Soon, To Take Me To Therapy! (I Told Her,Mrs Robinson That Is, Is That My Social Worker, Which I Did Have, Was Comming Over Soon, To Take Me To Therapy! Which Was True!) She (Mrs Robinson Asked Me: Why Do You Have To Go So Quickly, Dear?! Stay Awhile…..) Mrs Robinson Then Continued On To Ask Me, Why I Had To Go So Quickly Dear?! And Why Don’t You Stay Awhile?! That’s A Good Example Right There….The Landlord Eventually Told Her, That She (Mrs Robinson) Had To Pack Her Stuff, And Leave, She (Mrs Robinson) Had To Pack And Leave, Because She (Mrs Robinson) Was Causing Too Many Problems, At That Apartment Complex, In Northeastern Texas…..The Landlord Basically Threw Her (Mrs Robinson) Out For Being A Pesty Apartment Tennant, To The Entire Complex….(The Entire Complex!) That’s A Good Example…..
February 9, 2012 at 10:09 pm
We bought a half double home 4 years ago. After the first week, we had nothing but problems with the next door neighbors. Turns out they are real a**holes. In and out of their front door every 5 minutes after dark, slamming it. Come and go in expired trucks with no exhaust every 5 minutes after dark. They always disturb the peace. These people seem to be mentally challenged (retarded). They live like slobs and do not maintain their property. They park 8 pickup trucks on the street so we do not have parking sometimes. I have a huge list of issues with them. They should be locked up since they are fined a lot and like to harass people. We are just sick and tired of these lowlife shitfers. When you confront them about anything, even loud parties after midnight during the middle of a week, they want to scream and fight right away. I think they are on drugs and are just plain stupid. Worst neighbors ever. They also lock their dogs in their basement a lot and we can hear them cry and scratch their door. No police or authorities want to do anything about these people. They are lowering the value of my home by letting theirs look like crap and not fixing anything. Keep in mind this is a half double home. These people really should be locked up. Anyone in this neighborhood will agree with me. They have a bad reputation with everyone here.
Their day is coming very soon and I will be LMFAO.
February 9, 2012 at 10:18 pm
Podwalker, If you read this, I seem to have the same kind of neighbors. No, do not sit back and just let it be. Do not ever let anyone walk all over you and disrupt your quality of life in your own home. I fight back as much as I can without doing anything illegal. The thing that bad neighbors hate the most is when your kind to them. For example; Call the cops if they are disturbing you, that pisses them off. Then wait a day or so then say hi to them or wave to them. Its the little kind things that annoy them. Bad neighbors enjoy harassing others and do things to piss people off. If they see you pissed off, they get their jollies on. Eventually they will do something illegal to you or your property then thats when you can get them arrested. Thats what I’m waiting for. I also call the cops anytime they bother me just so that it is logged.
March 26, 2012 at 8:11 pm
My neighbor walks her dog with 10 million candel power spot light shining alround how would you like that shinning in your window.To be honest i would love to shove it.
June 26, 2012 at 12:42 pm
The liberal’s want a liberal world. ANYTHING a person wants to do should be OK. The ACLU, etc. want people to be “free” of control. Has anyone ever understood the term liberal? It means an impractical form of free of control, no moderation or balance of consideration. Moderation and rules make for a modest form of free life. Shoving it in others faces does not. But as it is said; laws keep honest people honest and the humble, humble. If you allow them to be liberal’ there goes that human factor called selfishness and inconsideration.
July 10, 2012 at 4:12 am
I have an alcoholic neighbour who constantly brings home a lot of shady people who are known to the police. She always sets her fire alarm off and once actually left the house while burning a fire in her backyard causing the alarms to go off. My husband had to put out the fire. It was so close to the house that had a flame caught, all our houses would have burned down. All our houses are connected and there are children on either side of her. It was a beautiful neighbourhood until she came around. Now her next door neighbours are moving because they can’t stand her. It’s really sad. We’re doing what we can to persuade potential neighbours to not rent the house and informing them of the hell that will befall them should they choose to live next to Jane. I don’t want revenge I want her gone. She is a danger to all of us by bringing these individuals. They constantly steal her things and recently started banging on other neighbours’ doors when they can’t get into Jane’s house. We’ve called the police a lot but they just take the offender away and a new one shows up the following day. HELP ME!!
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